honesty

i wish people would be more honest. with others and with themselves. take for instance the 'bar' scene. both men and women go to the bar to, yes, spend quality time with their friends, but also to get notice. to have a member of the opposite sex notice them and make them feel good. we go to show ourselves off and to get attention. lets just be honest about the fact that we want to interact to achieve this attention. so why is it that both men and women alike go to the bar and dont talk to a member of the opposite sex. we put up this front like im too good to talk to you. but inside we are screaming for them to come over and say something. anything. the guys are too prideful to walk up to a girl and the girls are too intimidated, meek, to grow some balls and walk up to a guy. i know im a little biased because i just came from italy where the men, of any age, will walk right up to you and tell you you're beautiful, and they want to marry you. there is no false pretense. no games. what good does it do anyone to not be honest, straight forward about what they want. think of all the happy girls and boys that would be leaving the bars on saturday night if they were just honest with themselves and others, instead of all the sexually frustrated ones. and im just using the bar scene as an example. people need to be more honest in life. in general. honest about what they want out of life. we are raised to believe there is a 'normal' path to follow in life and im pretty sure for ninety nice percent of the population it doesnt feel right. but that cant be honest with themselves about this. because of they were their safe haven, their comfort zone would suddenly seem unfamiliar and confining. and then what would they do. and for that one percent that likes to conform. please stop passing judgement on those that choose an "alternate' lifesytle. some of us are not comfortable accepting the norm. some of us feel that there is more to life for us. and maybe that means that we havent found ourselves, that we are searching for something more. and to that i say so what? the day i stop trying to figure out who i am and all the facets that make up my emotional and physical being is the day i will be buried in the ground. how could someone ever find all the answers in one lifetime? dont misunderstand me. i am not passing judgement on those that have chosen a different path then mine. if anything i probably dont understand where they are coming from, and vice versa. but i would like to think that i would want to know, to ask, to try to understand where you are coming from. i would only ask the same in return. but to get back to the subject at hand, there needs to be more honesty in the world. brutal, heart breaking. life changing, world shattering truth. sometimes the truth hurts. but what does it mean when you withhold the truth? the only reason not to be honest is to hide something. and if you have to hide it you probably shouldnt have done it in the first place. i know we all make mistakes. i just feel that we should be honest about them. that we should own our mistakes and take responsibility for them. take for instance cheating. i have not always been honest about my mistakes. but i would prefer to be. and i would appreciate the same in return. yes, you may lose your relationship, you may hurt someones feelings. but you knew that from the very start. so just own up to it. when it comes to relationships i feel honesty goes hand in hand with communication. if you can talk with the one you love about your thoughts and feelings, and know they will be respected, you probably would be able to have a conversation before your actions took you places you shouldnt go. i want to be more honest. and i want the people in my life to be honest with me as well. there are too many games to play in life as it is. and yes i know this is a useless rant as honesty, true honesty doesnt really exist. but i have hope that someday that i will be as honest with myself as possible and the same to others. and maybe, just maybe, i will get it in return.